Hello guys, its Erin Ray again.
I was thinking tonight about communication, especially how families communicate with each other. Have you ever thought about this? Sometimes the people that love you the most are the hardest to talk to. Even if you have no form of a communication disability, your family can make you feel like you do. Sometimes we try so hard to show those we love who we are, we end up being disappointed when things fall short.
I was faced with this when my dad came to visit this weekend. He met my new boyfriend for the first time. And actually, he really liked him. But as I sat and watched them interact, I wondered. Is it sad that my new boyfriend knows me more than my own dad? And it is. It makes me sad to think about it.
I guess in the end each of us have our own battles to fight. In the end, maybe we all just have to go that extra mile to show the ones we love who we are.
I know that I am going to try to, no matter what it takes.
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I know how you feel I am recently engaged and I feel like my fiance knows me better than my family. Before we started dating my mom and I were best friends now I don't usually see her and when I do she is not very nice. Now it seems that her and my sister are better friends. I think that I have decided that the relationship between me and my future husband are important. Anyway I know how you feel because I am in the same situation. Good Luck! I would not worry about it because I feel as you grow and your relationships change it makes you change as a person.
Family is hard to talk to. My mom and I are not close, but we make it a point to call and talk at least once a week. That at least got conversations going and maybe it will get better. The attempt to make conversation is hard, but once it is started it can olny get better.
I completely understand. I am close with my family, yet I'm not. My sisters are 11 years older than I, and they are close because there is only 16 mos between them. I am different from my family, they are semi-judgemental and negative. I am so far the other way. My family is always here for me but in a different supportive way and my mom says things things sometimes that just gets under my skin but I have realized with age that, that is just my mom. My family has no clue as to all the organizations I am involved with and how passionate I am about my major. They have no clue that I write poetry, and have for years. Its just family dynamics, I suppose but nonetheless, I wouldn't trade them for the world. As families go their pretty good, they could be worse.
I can honestly say i know exactly how you feel. It is harder for me to communicate with my family, but yet so easy for me to communicate with my boyfriend and his family. I dont know what it is. And it is kind of scary that my boyfriend knows more about me then my own living father! That really upsets me that my own boyfriend knows more about me then my father! I guess we just have our own battles to fight, but i will pick and choose which wants i want to confront, and ones i dont want to confront!
I know how you feel too, my dad and I had absolutely no relationship before I moved out. I can't remember ever doing anything other than listen to him talk. He never asked me my opinion on anything growing up, and instead I had to listen to him lecture me all the time. Now that I'm married, my dad seems to respect my opinion more, which is kind of weird, but true. I can remember last week my dad called me out of the blue, just to sat hi. I thougt I was dreaming at first. It's nice to have more communicaion with my dad now, but I wish he would have had a relationship with me when i was akid.
I think it's interesting to see how differently we communicate with other people in general. How I talk to my mom may be different than how I talk to my dad or my brother or my friends.
I'm in the opposite boat as you guys, and I'm EXTREMELY close to my parents. I won't say they know everything about me, because that'd be a lie. There are plenty of things they don't know, but I can communicate with them at a much greater ease than I can with some of my friends.
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